Welcome to Adoption Healing Chat Room - Adoptese

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Over 30 years of helping those whose lives have been touched by adoption.  

 ( Chat began November 1, 1996 )


This chat is for adoptees , natural parents & their relatives.

Chat is open 24/7 but facilitated chat is nightly from 11pm-12:22 am Eastern.  For info on chat for those not living  in North or South America, email me.
(When scheduled in advance, European chats are held on Sunday @ 4pm Eastern)


Guidelines:  We do not use the word "adopter". Adoptive parents may be referred to as such or as "A-rents" or "Aparents". We do not use  "bio", "b", "biological" or "birth" in reference to mothers.

Who you see here, what you see, when you leave, let it stay here, Except in Emergencies.

No one is forced to talk in chat. You may just observe for a while and decide.
Please  do Not use  sounds except in private whispers.

Please 
do Not ask questions of others, it may scare them .

It is not Okay to criticize anyone for any reason. If you have a problem, email me or send me a private message during chat.
To Join:  please email  me with your connection to adoption:   joesoll@adoptionhealing.com

Your  screen name will be your first name and the 1st letter of your last name.

Your password will be emailed to you. 

Basic Feelings are: Mad, Sad, Glad, Fear, Shame, Guilt, Jealousy

Feelings Statement examples:

I am angry I was not raised by my natural mother.

I am sad I did not get to raise my child.

I'm afraid that I will die if I work on my pain.
Note:  Women who lost babies to adoption are referred to s "moms", "1st moms", or "natural moms". They are mothers of adoption loss. They did not give their babies to anyone. Their babies were taken by adoption.

Gossip inside and outside of our chat hurts our mission of healing from adoption wounds. Please keep chat confidential, except in emergencies.

Please note: In private therapy details matter. In chat, too many details dilute the emotions & are counter-productive. The most effective way of making progress is to make simple feeling sentences similar to those above.  When done this way, the feelings will not be pushed aside.  This is an example of Less being More.

I highly recommend Jane Rowan's pamphlet as an adjunct to the inner child work of my books!
http://www.janerowan.com/childbooklet.html

Code of Conduct: Language

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Chat Abbreviations: 

brb
= Be Right Back,  lol = Laughing out Loud,  ty = Thank You,   yw = You're Welcome
roflmao = Rolling On Floor, Laughing My Ass Off,   ic = Inner Child,   wb = Welcome Back

The flags below represent the countries of those who have participated in our nightly chat.

us
U.S.
canada
Canada
uk
U.K.
scot
Scotland
ireland
Erin
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Denmark
norway
Norway
sweden
Sweden
Holland
Holland
belgium
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Belgium


France
France
germany
Germany
italy
Italy
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Suiss
Austria
Austria
greece
Greece
 israel
 Israel

libya
Lebanon
S Africa
S. Africa


Columbia
Colombia
Peru
Peru
brasil
Brasil
a
OZ
nz
NZ
korea
Korea
china
China
Vietnam
Vietnam
India
India
sri lanka
Sri Lanka

Roumania
Romania

Russia

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