January 26, 2012
"Joe Soll has probably worked with adoptees and first parents more than anyone else on the planet. His approach has always involved empathy, intuition and introspection, without which dialogue runs dry. Few know the depth of the adoptee and first parent experience as well as Joe Soll, especially the dark side, where loss and loneliness reside.

Combining his experience, or perhaps we should say wisdom, with current therapeutic approaches, Joe creates an environment where growth can occur. Read his work, try it out, see how it works for you." -

Robert Andersen, M.D., psychiatrist, author of Second Choice: Growing Up Adopted and  A Bridge Less Travelled: Twice Visited

November 11, 2011
"Loss, loss, and more loss. Joe Soll, in his latest book about adoption, knows well how the pain of loss can undermine relationships, including in reunion. Delving deeply into both the loss of the child and of the mother are necessary preludes to reunions if they are to proceed without another devastation.  In this book, Joe gives many helpful suggestions and ideas toward healing these rifts. One of the most important is to deal with reality. Then there is allowing for the grief and persevering  toward empathy, both for self and for other. This requires courage, tenacity, and strength. This book will help those affected by adoption to find these qualities and permit themselves to engage in fulfilling relationships." - Nancy Verrier, psychotherapist, author of Primal Wound: Legacy of the adopted child, and Coming Home to Self: The Adopted Child Grows Up

September 13, 2011
"This Supplement to the Adoption Healing series creates a way for readers to gain insights into what 'affected by adoption' really means. This book enables those affected by adoption to fully grieve the losses inherent in adoption by simply opening the book, reading, and doing the work contained within the pages.  Joe brings together the painful experiences of adoptees and first mothers and ties together the two previous books into one clean comprehensive and easy to read package. This  book provides a way to examine 'the adoption experience' in a gentle and sincere way allowing for a unique healing opportunity." - Jean Provance, LCSW, psycho-therapist and adoption educator.

September 12, 2011
"This 'supplement' offers practical advice for adoptees, their parents and therapists - much of it updated, or not available in Joe Soll's original 2000 edition of Adoption Healing.  There are also well-organized appendices, such as a fascinating one entitled Myths and Facts, and a needed emphasis on concepts such as Healing the Fracture in Adoptees. The focus throughout, is on the healing power of openness, truth and validation of self, in adoption (rather than the toxic secrets, lies and myths, still so prevalent in the adoption world). This is an important book .a must read." - David Kirschner, PhD., Psychoanalyst, author of ADOPTION: UNCHARTED WATERS. . A Psychologist's Case Studies. . Clinical & Forensic Issues.

  September 4, 2011
"We have been given a gift; a ground breaking, deeply insightful analysis of the complex reasons why adoption reunions are so often interrupted or destroyed by the lack of self-knowledge.  Soll explains that in order for reunions to be successful, adoptees and their mothers must first individually climb the ‘mountain of recovery’ to understand and overcome the devastating effects of the ‘profound’ loss experienced by both at the moment of their separation.

Adoption creates powerful emotional conflicts caused by layers of trauma and the false belief systems that grew up around adoption and which sabotage reunions. This book shows adoptees and their mothers, those brave survivors of the excruciating trauma induced when they were separated, how to heal their own selves in order to prepare for and deal with reunion. How both parties conduct their reunion journey determines success or failure at the shared destination.

This book teaches mothers, adoptees and their therapists about the extensive preparation required to prepare for success. Barriers to success are named as traumatic sorrow, loss and pain but the good news is adoptees and their mothers will no longer need to bring their accumulated traumas along to disrupt their reuniting. Soll has provided a detailed set of psychological skills for reunion travelers to follow, enabling them to travel safely and well." - Joss Shawyer,  author of Death by Adoption